date with HB 9.5 - rapport only. less funny. it's working

So I went on a date today with one of the hottest girls I have ever been out with. Maybe that I’ve ever met at all, HB 9.5, easy. This is the one I met in late December on the bus, went on insta date. She was really busy, and flaked out, so I hadn’t seen her till today. I invited her out to my birthday drinks and she couldn’t make it but she texted me to ask how it went. Today I say, let’s meet up. She says she ends work at midnight. I say that’s fine. We meet.
This girl was so hot it’s unreal. It’s fucking past midnight, we go to a caffee and the old man behing the counter makes some cheesy remark when she asks for honey. It was “you don’t need it, you’re sweet enough. What’s sad is I’d have said that 3 months ago, LOL! Oh how far I’ve come. Aaaanywas
I dind’t bring up her looks, or compliment her at all (just “hey you’re fun”) maybe once but that’s it
It was just rapport, bonding, stories, real shit. At first I was thinking “wow I’m not even being funny what the fuck is wrong with me! She doesn’t think I’m funny! Omg she’ll never see me again!!” It felt weird… but after like 45 mins I got back into my normal self and started joking around and telling funny stories and she fucking loooooooooved me. AFTER we’d gotten to know each other and had “normal conversation” .. and this was on a day 2 keep in mind…
When I walked her to the bus stop you know what she said?
Hb “hey, we have to hang out proberly” (she’s already said it before one time)
Sasha “yea sure, like what’s properly?”
“like dinner, and a bottle of wine at my place”
Sasha “Bah, I don’t like wine, but I like girly drinks… we’ll get some pinya coladas! What will u cook?”
This thing (blah blah mentions seafood)
Sasha :ugh I hate seafood
Hb “Oh, don’t worry! I can make it with chicken too, you’ll love it!!”
Sasha “ok, that sounds better”
One of the hottest girls I’ve ever seen
Not one sexual joke, comment, nothing
And yet I’m having dinner at her place. Booze laden dinner


See. some times it's best just NOT to....

more numbers and fun

Feb 12^th

Today was fun. Was sarging with matt a bit then with yad. Did a gig as well. Jeez it’s so easy now it’s like automatic. Just stopping girls and getting their number. I got like 5 or 6 today plus facebooks. It’s just silly really. I’m just seeing how far I can push the siliness/directness in some sets because I already have too many/ can’t keep track of the girls I’m meeting. It’s ridiculous. Girls are adding me on facebook, hot girls – and I’m messaging them with “hey uh, sorry, who are you again? Where did we meet? Why do you want to be my friend?” cuz I can’t remember. They’re fucking gorgous student girls in their 20’s and I really just don’t know.

One girl today was pretty hot this American. She was loving me so I just found out she didn’t have a BF. Then I just said “how long has it been since you’ve had sex?” and she’s like “a while!” and I said “we’re going to fuck. What’s your number?” and she gives me her number. i walked off thinking “it can’t be that easy, let’s see” and I text her “hope I didn’t scare u, I won’t hurt you. I’m normal. Haha. Let’s meet tomorrow for a drink” and she said “I’m up for that”

This girl was hot.

Another one was crossing the street and I was like “omg, you’re crossing over just to talk to me. I don’t really like girls that are that forward. You should wave first next time, hehe”

Got some hot philipino girls’ number who hasn’t had a BF in 3 years (warning sign) she kinda had crooked ass teeth though a hot body, probably won’t call her

Got this black girls number who was cute, fun, and had an amazing body (gold tooth though, hrmmm….)

Some other numbers I can’t even remember

Oh I’m on the way to my mate’s house and there’s this hot Spanish girl. I open her, she’s a bit upset and tell me she was just on a date and the guy kissed her on the check. Right off I’m goin shock and awe (she was drunk) telling her hot hot she is. I said

“hey you can kiss me and pretend I’m him if you want” … she’s like”no!” and I said “kidding” … I was getting my hands on her and she wasn’t objecting. She’s like “I have to talk to my flatmates etc” and … well she’s torn between me and going home. I’ve seen this in girls before, more and more. Where they really are torn between 2 courses of action. Think about this. It means that any moment you’re just one tiny though pattern away from – whatever it is you’re trying to convince a girl to do. Get her number, get her to buy you a drink, get her to sleep with you. It’s THAT close. She’s litereally walking away from me, then walking back. It’s almost irrational. Surely she knows if she wants to leave right at THAT moment or talk to me? But no, they don’t. we know, don’t we fellas? Anyways I didn’t force it (it felt dirty and too easy. Some chode probably spent half his pay getting her drunk, didn’t have the balls to kiss her (maybe he didn’t like her??) and here I am face to face with this horny lonely girl. I think I could have done it… got her back to mine… but… I was actually looking forward to getting to my mate’s house. I had to print something. Thinking back, I should have pushed it. Why not? She was hot!! Anyways I took her number and she was like “yea call me, for sure, I wanna see you…” but then I got a text from yad that he # closed this girl we were just talking to on the tube (and then I called him to tell him about this drunk chick) but when I clicked end I erased her number as I hadn’t actually saved it yet. Lol FUCK! Ah well. Just one of like, billions of girls.

Oh we open this set and one of the girls knows me and I recognize I’d already sarged her and I’m like “hey I know her, lol!!” this happened yesterday as well, this girl opens me cuz we already talked … I knew her face, but from where? Her name? no fucking clue. Same thing happened yesterday, this girl who was with her friends was like “hey! Sasha!! Over here!” and I’m like …errr…. Yeah…hi….

Oh yesterday was with matt was well, he stayed in set with one girl I sicked him on. She was like an hb 9.5 … so fucking hot it was unreal, and just at the end she said she had a BF and he ejected. I yelled at him “dude what are you doing. Her friends are goin to look like her – you should have just framed it like she was awesome and you wanted to be friends and that’s that” once again, ask them early on, then u can frame the whole interaction as “we should be pals”

Erm, yea, I’m not even meeting up with all these fucking girls, same with yad. It’s silly. We both have to actually STOP sarging and just go on dates with all these chicks. I think between wed and Sunday I have to meet up with ..jeez it’s a few. I’ll be posting date reports and crap!! Oh it’s gonna be some fun times.

End of 30 day challenge report

General update

Well, I haven’t been blogging because… I got tired of blogging all the time I guess. I’ve come to a level where getting #’s from girls is piss fucking easy. They don’t even mean anything anymore, and it isn’t interesting to write about so I don’t bother. If I lay a girl, seriously mess around with one (in bed, not emotionally :P ) I’ll put it on here.

Err, then again another PUA told me that he got really good when he started writing up everything that happened. But I talk to so many girls, well I don't really have the time – but I’ll make an effort to put more on here. I really don’t even know if anyone is reading this, lol but fuck it I’ll keep hammering away. Basically I’ve just finished a 30 day challenge when my goals (at the beginning) were to try go for makeouts in every set, and try giving my # out to girls without taking their number. Well, both these goals are fucking ridiculous, I can tell you right now.

Here’s why:

Make out in every set? Eh? You’re going to get slapped around if you try and make out with every chick you meet. Sometimes it’s just damned inappropriate. I mean, yea, I wasn’t going for it as much as I should have but certainly going for it all the time would have been a massive over correction. No the goal should have been “go for a make out in any nighttime situation where I’m getting ioi’s, or daytime situation where I was getting massive ioi’s. that would have been fair enough. Anyways the reason I came up with that for my challenge was, that I was shit at physical escalation and never kissed girls even when I thought I could get away with it.

Well, I can tell you now, I’ve fucking gotten over that bit. Yea. I went to koko’s in Camden town a somewhere in week two and I make out with 3 girls in there (and 1 on a day 2 earlier) … I could have done many more, but it would just be to prove it to myself and after 3 in a row I knew I could do it. It really wasn’t hard. You give them that sexy look, let them know your intentions, keep’em chatting, keep telling them they’re fucking hot and go for it. I was using shock + awe within my conversations themselves (worked nicely for me, dunno if anyone else is doing it like that) …. *(Also I’ve realized you can go sexual at any point in an interaction. More on this in a minute.) Anyways, once you just start making out with chicks one after the other u just know you can do it. So now, when I wanna make out, I can make out. The calibration of it comes with time. I can see how the MPUA’s (hate to use the term, who can really say who is an MPUA is who is not?) but the guys who are really amazing, I can see how they can just fucking make out with a girl in 30 seconds. They just know the girl is ready. Just like I’m starting to see in a girl’s eyes when she is ready to come home, when she wants to make out. It’s there, you just have to look for it. (I can see it in the eyes, but use whatever body language/ioi’s you need to. But after a while you DO see it. Just comes down to time in the field.

Right, the 2^nd thing I said I was going to do was start giving my # out to girls instead of taking their number. The idea is, if the call/text, then they are chasing you. You are the prize. Now, I want to say that I do like this idea/frame. It’s cool. I can see it working. It didn’t really work for me. I’d meet some cool girl, give her my number and never hear from her again. Some I would, some I wouldn’t. It’s just too fucking frustrating when you don’t. Well, not that frustrating as there’s always so many more sets – but still frustrating. Then again, why am I surprised. I get #’s and never call sometimes (yes I have to stop doing that) so why is it surprising that a GIRL who’s used to guys calling HER wouldn’t call me? Not that shocking really. Err – the more I think about it, the greater I think the “give your number” thing is. But I think that’s for a level of game that is slightly above where I am now. At this point, I know I am good but I still have a long way to go. I think your shit has to be really tight to be giving your # to girls and have them calling you. That being said, today I met a fucking very very cute Japanese girl, hung out with her around 15-18 mins, gave her my card and just said “hey, you’re fun. We should hang out sometime” … no time bridge, nothing…. And I had an email from her by the time I got home. This girls was hooooootttttttttttttt

So I’m getting there. The point is, with what I’ve learned and the way I’m going, yes I think I will be at a point where I’ll be able to just give my number and have the girls always calling me. It may be quite soon. But, I wasn’t at that point when I started my 30 day challenge. Of that I can be sure. Anyways, that too is situational… sometimes u won’t get a chance, or it will seem needy to ask them for their number, or SOMEthing … so just give your number in a calm manner and hope for the best. I mean, it’s a sign of confidence in itself that you trust the girl will ring you. A needy guy won’t walk away without that girls number, but a man who is used to girls chasing after him… well… he wouldn’t care if she called at all, now would he? I will be messing around with this more and more, as I have less and less time to chase after girls the better I get at it. Eventually I can see myself stopping taking numbers altogether, but not quite yet….

Right – another epiphany I had is that… well I’ve been too high fucking enery/too funny this whole time. Most guys are trying to be funnier, I have to work on being less funny. I was so busy entertaining girls I wasn’t getting any rapport. My friend got a 1 on 1 from a guy here in London, and all the guy taught him was how to have a conversation with girls, asking them questions and getting the girls into opening up and share stuff about themselves. Essentially it’s called “having a normal conversation, with a normal human being.” I realized that this is something that has fundamentally been missing from my encounters with the lovely members of the opposite sex. I was just being funny, trying to impress them into sleeping with me. And hey once in a while it would work. I’d “get lucky” … but not nearly as much as if I’d shut the fuck up and let the girl talk. Once in a while, I would create rapport by making fun of the girl and joking around, but we weren’t really having a real conversation. Right? So if you just kid around with a girl, tell her she’s hot and then get her number, is she going to feel comfortable seeing you again? I can tell you from a (significant) amount of experience that the answer, my friends, is NO. FUCK – NO.

What’s missing?

Comfort. Oh, and the other thing. Qualification. There can be no successful sarge without these ingredients (or at LEAST one of the two) … unless you’re going for fool’s mate. Then just attraction is enough.

Yes. She has to know that she can talk to you, in a normal manner if she meets up with you. Furthermore if you put her into an enhanced state with your hilarity (or say your magic if that’s your thing) or simply your MM negs / group theory – she’ll be worried that it won’t be the same when you see her. She’ll think she was just in some “weird mood” or whatever. And you’re just some fun guy that hit on her/wants to fuck her. So what? There’s millions of them. Nah, billions. If she’s hot, there’s around 2.2 billion men that want to fuck her. (that’s a guess, but if we take out the men that are too young, and too old, I’m saying 2.2B) … ooh wait, the Christians. The Buddhists. Ok I’m well off. Let’s just say 500m. ok? You’re one of 500 milion guys. So unless you’re rich, famous, or absolutely amazingly good looking, or have something else that really appeals to her … you’re just one in 500,000,000. nice, right?

But if you’re a fun, interesting guy who she can talk to and feel COMFORTABLE around, who’s she’s also ATTRACTED to… well, then you’re one in a million! Haha (see what I did there?)

Also, I’ve written about qualification before so I won’t yatter on about it but it’s very important – she needs a reason you like her other than her DD cup size. Pretty simple. So find some reasons and let her know what they are. Can be “oh, you like kung fu movies?” to “huh?? You’re like giving back rubs?” to “OMG!! You do salsa dancing?? I love salsa!!” whatever. Try to find something genuine to qualify them on…. Some charectaristic you’d want potential girlfriend to have, some activity that you actually like (or at least would really like to try) … nothing wrong with saying “omg! I totally have been meaning to try that. You’re into that? That’s it you are TAKING ME to …” (and then, hopefully, taking you ;)

Right – my phone game’s been sucking in that I’ve been texting girls. Sometimes they don’t reply then I feel needy texting them again, so whether I do or not the whole interaction is fucked. So if a girl is hot and you actually give a shit, call them first time. Me and yad have been chatting about this and we’ve realized that the best message to leave girls if you get their voicemail is the most normal one you can come up with

“hey, this is Sasha. Meet you the other day in that coffee shop. Just calling to say hey – give me a call back”

that’s it. You don’t have to be funny. It’s a little try hard. Just be normal. Don’t try arrange a date on the voicemail, more pressure. Less is more. So, now that we’ve realized this I’m officially ONLY doing that. Meet a girl, CALL the first time (no texting) and just leave NORMAL message. If they don’t call back, in 3 days I might text just saying “did u get my message?” or I may call again and do a funny message about how I’m not sleeping/eating/why have they abandoned me (ok to be funny on the 2^nd call) but on the 1^st one, normal normal. BORING AND NORMAL!!

Right – now – I’ve written my attraction + soi = flake theory below and it still holds

This next month I’m going to be putting a lot of these revelations into play so we’ll see how it holds up. Where I’m sitting now, what I’m saying (to my knowledge) is the right way to go about it. If you can’t take a girl home on the night, don’t try escalate things at all. Just be fun/interesting/social …. Make plans. She won’t flake. Then you can get sexual / escalate when you have her on a day 2, near your seduction location. Ah, logistics is massive, btw … especially for one night lays….the girl I pulled home from the street the other day… it was so easy, she was standing in front of my doorstep. That may be the best place to try and sarge, btw… in front of your door! Hehe sounds creepy I know … if you’re not holding a shovel or a needle when you do it, it’s ok ….

Oh. Yeah. I should sleep.

So what am I working on

Stay in set longer – get rapport. Be less funny and more “normal”

Call every number. Leave a normal message if they don’t answer. If they answer have fun and make plans to meet.

Easy peasy!

Oh here are the official stats

Slept with: 2 girls

Head from: 2 girl (that I didn’t sleep with)

Jerked off in front of 1 girl (played with sum lovely boobs)

Hymens destroyed = 1 (yes I could have, but didn’t)

Girls that were DTF that I didn’t sleep with = 4+ (at least)

oh, I regret the Turkish girl. Oh she was fine… in my defense, when I met her round the corner from my place the reality that I could just bring girls home and sleep with them was JUST sinking in… and I thought I’d just sleep with her the next time. Well, she left the country and that’s that. SOooooooooooo lesson learned. Close the fucking deal ASAP. If you like them, you can still see them again. (unless it’s like the woman of your dreams, etc. still I would think better to do it earlier rather than later) … depends what you’re trying to get out of P.U I suppose, but there you have it.

My entire reality has changed. I know I can just bring girls back and sleep with them. And, I can see much more clearly when a girl is just down to fuck. Oh, seeing they want it, and believing it to be possible are 2 different things…. For me, I never saw it before, because deep down it wasn’t in my reality. Well… what can I say…. A month from now I’m sure I’ll be living in a another reality once again. So ask yourself this:

Has your reality changed in the last month? If not, why not ….

And what are you going to do about it?

Sasha

Errr another naked non complete sexual experience

Got the Israeli girl over to my house last night

I thought it was a booty call, but we just fooled around a bit

I don't really like her, but I though what the hell. A bit of fun.

I can't really be bothered to try and escalate things with a girl I don't really know or like. Why was she even over here? I thought the fact that she was coming over at 4.30 in the morning make it an (obvious) booty call. Ah well....

I'm going to stop doing that....

well, she wanted me to touch myself a little so i gave her a litte show. she had nice boobs. i got to touch them. that's something i guess....

I really don't like israeli girls. It's a patter i'm noticing. They're so... cunty. I'll leave it at that

Bloody virgins....

So last night I do a bit of gaming with Yad. Now, I said I would out him on this so I'm going to. He's a legend, and approaches/fucks more than anyone I know, but he'll still approach like HB 3's and shit!! Like fat, ugly american chicks. Not like chubby. Fat. Bordering on obeese. I just bail immediately. I will not waste 20 seconds on these sets. and I feel like a dick saying "this chicks are rough buddy, let's get out of here. Actually I'd like to see the looks on their faces just once if I did that.... anyways, if you see Yad in the field, call him a chubby chaser. or ask him "how are the HB 3's buddy??" maybe it will get him to stop...

Got a couple of numbers around my area and then I decide that I need a shower before heading off to cheapskates for the first time. I tell Yad I’ll see him in a bit. My other mate drops by to pick something up and we decide to go for a bit of a wander. I open up one hottie walking by and he butts in with his crude come on’s. He’s one of the biggest AFC’s I know. It’s very frustrating being around him, actually. I have told him about PUA and although he did ask me for a bit of helpl he certainly didn’t seem interested in talking about it on the day. I actually called him an asshole and walked off. I text one of the girls who’s number I had got just earlier “Hey what u up to” and she replies “just at the pub where we met in front of. Where are you” and I said “just moments away, shall I drop by” and she said “yea”

I go meet up with her. She’s a cute 29 year old. Quite fun and bubbly. I give her a 7. Anyways we chat for a bit. She’s seeing her ex in a bit. He’s an asshole The met up with him a few days ago, they argued for a day and they they had sex. I ask her why she met up with him – because she wanted “closure” … I asked why she is seeing him again and she gives me the same answer. I bet her a 20 min backrub that she’ going to fuck him again. She accepts the bet, insisting it isn’t going to happen. Alright. I figure it’s a win win for me. Oh interesting point – when I met her originally on the street I made some joke that she hadn’t been been laid in the month she’s been single and she agreed even though she’s just banged her ex a few days before … (IOI!)

Aaaaaaaaanywho I gave her a little massage which she loved, she gave me a shitty massage and when she left to meet him I opened some sets in the pub. I think there is a fair chance I could have gotten her to cancel and run off with me, but I though I could do better so I didn’t bother. We said we’re going to see each other on Monday but once again, I know I’m going to be getting some before then so who knows. (backup I guess) .. I chat with one hot Canadian girl with a BF who was pretty into me. Facebook. Finally it’s past 9 and I think I really have to go have that shower and get ready to go out. I intend on pulling some hot student tonight!! As I’m walking and I get to about 20 feet from my door, I see a cute black girl who’s walking towards me. “Hey, what’s the time?” … She’s like “I, uhhh… hang on” and I say “Nobody cares. You’re cute, I just wanted to talk to you, haha” … we talk for like ten minutes. It’s pretty flirty. She asks where I live. I tell her right there and point to the door. She says “you don’t live there! Prove it!” So I open the door with my key. I said, you wanna check it out? She says “sure”


We go in. I show her around a bit and we talk some more. After a while I say “We should make out” and she says “ok” … I learn that she’s 18 years old (I’m clever not to reveal my age yet)


Eventually we did a bit of stand up massage on each other and I say “Let’s go to my room. I’ll give you an amazing back rub with oil. I’m not promising I’m goin to put out though, so don’t get any ideas!” and she says “you better not get any ideas either!”’

We get up there and I put the sexy lights on. This consists of me turning on my 3 pounds idea lamp I bought in 2006 which I lost the main part of. So you just hae to lay it on it’s side or hang it over the chair (I do the latter) … and turning the main lights off. Oh and my laptop lights add to the ambiance. I ask her if she wants hers first or does she want to give me mine. She says I get mine first. Cool girl. So I take the shirt of and she goes to town. She’s really into it. She gives great massage! We talk more. I ask her if she normally dates white guys or black guys, she says neither. I’m like “What?? You’re not a vigring, are you??” she doesn’t answer. She’s a virgin. Oh boy oh boy oh boy” the massage continues. She’s great!! I ask if she wants to switch but she’s happy. So I’m happy. At one point I say to her

“You have strong hands. I can see why your people made great slaves”

She doesn’t get offended or hit my, so I take that as an IOI too Wink

Talking more I find out not only has she not had sex, she’ never been naked, with a man, in bed before. Ever. Yipes. I ask her straight up “how far do u want this going tonight” and she says “not all the way” I’m like “cool” … I was scared for the hymen breakage. I dunno how that works and I make some jokey jokes about it

Eventually I say “ok, your turn” and give her one of my amazing body rubs. Ooh she loves it. Kiss the back of her neck a bit, bla blah turn over. Full frontal oil massage (oh guys you gotta do this, it’s just as much fun for the girl as for you, heh)

I tell her she should have her way with me as she’s never had this sort of experience. She gets on top of me and pretty much goes for the cock. She gives me a pretty good blowjob! I couldn’t believe she hadn’t done this before. I start thinking it’s all a con. Kind of. I have an internal orgasm and calm down a bit. I figure it’s her turn but on second though “go on, have a litte more cock, sweetie, you need the experience” haha (well she does, right?) … I tell her that I like it slow, but that’s just the way I like head. Other guys will curse her for learning from me, hehe

Then, I blow one in her mouth. Yea yea I know I shouldn’t. but, come on. I’m the first cumshot she’s ever had. Ever. Every time she goes to town on someone she’s going to think of me blowing one in her mouth. I had to do it. It was mandatory. She was a bit surprised. Haha. I can still see the look on her face. It said “Eww, what??” hehheeh I think she swallowed too. What a babe!

Anyways I start rubbing her and she’s really horny. As I start unbuttoning her, I make some joke that I’m scared to look - she blind folds me with her bra so I’m fingering her blind. Yaay. She is so tight I can barely get my big finger in. it’s like weird. I don’t even know where the hymen is but I just take it easy. I’m scared. I’ve never been scared in bed before but I was a little scared. I almost make her come though it’s hard to maneuver around in there. I wanna use my 2 finger move, but when I do she says “stop!” .. I look down and there’s blood all over my hand. Aaarrgh! So, I start licking it off and she gets really freaked out. I always knew I was a vampire, but this experience just proved it to me. I mean, I was compelled to lick my hand. Then I went down on her and drained her till she stopped moving. Then it got ackward... Ok I was kidding, I see the blood I go to wash it off, and when I come back there’s a fucking pool of blood on my blanket. Now I know why I bought the red sheets,(bonus!) but it’s gone thru to the white duvet!! Craap!!! We clean up as best as we can and she gets dressed. “sorry about your duvet” she says… “I’m sending you the bill for dry cleaning, luv!” …

I walk her outside, we kiss and I say “you totally just used me!” and she says “you totally just used me to!” hhaha… err, I ask if I’ll see her again, she says “I’m not going anywhere” … I give her my card and tell her to facebook me. I ask if she’s gonna tell her friends and she says “in a few months, probably” … we say our goodbyes and I part company. Yes, I could have boned her. No, I didn’t want to. It should be someone special.

What. It should. Don’t look at me like that. Stop it. Come on. Seriously. Stop that.

First virgin experience! Bah. I was a little shocked for a few hours but now I think I’m ok. At least I know this one didn’t have aids. Tongue


So, one busted hymen and douvet later what do I have to say? hrmm..... I dunno...
Bloody virgins...

LMDR theory

Attraction + Statement of Intent = LMDR (Last minute date resistance)

Ok, you meet a girl. You like each other. You connect. You let her know you like her, etc. You might kiss her, you might not. But you’ve made your intention clear – you want to sleep with her (whether you’ve conveyed interest in a long or short term relationship isn’t that relevant for my theory) just that you have given her a SOI

You make plans to meet up. You even gets some texts going back and forth, etc.

She flakes, you never see her again.

Sound familiar? It does to me, because it’s happened a fuck load of times in the last month.

Yea, I know what you’re thinking

“Not enough comfort/rapport buddy! you didn’t get a solid enough connection!”

perhaps in some cases

“you didn’t qualify properly!”

Err, sometimes... but sometimes I do it all right and they still flake on a day 2...

I know when I have a connection with a girl, when a girl is into me. We all feel it sometimes, and it is a great feeling. And when all those ingredients are present, the connection, the bonding the attraction... they still flake out on a day 2. And it's like "WHAT THE HELLLL!!!" Why does this happen?? ?

LAST MINUTE DATE RESISTANCE

We all know about LMR – Well it’s essentially the same thing, except you haven’t gotten the girl into bed yet. If a girl is feeling attraction to you and you’ve made your intention clear with an SOI …. You’re a man. She’s a woman. You’ve made it clear that you are interested in her. Most women are not fools, she knows very well that by meeting up with you up she is saying “yes” to the possibility of sex. It’s not a big deal to us, but for women it is. Think about all the reasons a woman would be nervous about a day 2.

- She may have a Boyfriend (or is already dating someone and feels guilty)
she’s not sure she really likes you
- maybe she was caught up in the moment
she's scared it may lead to sex
she's scared it may not lead to sex
she's not sure if she wants to be in a relationship
- maybe she wants a relationship and is scared you won’t want one
she's scared if she doesn't sleep with you will be upset
she's scared if she does sleep with you she'll be upset
maybe she's worried the sex won't be good
- maybe she’s worried the sex will be good and/or she’ll be hooked
she's worried you won't see her again if you do fuck her
- maybe she’s had some bad experiences with ex bf’s (most girls have) and doesn’t want to risk getting hurt again (there is a gammant of sub reasons here)
- she’s worried about getting knocked up and you’ll run away (primary reason for LMR)
she doesn’t want to waste time on another relationship that will lead “nowhere” … it didn’t lead to anything with all her previous boyfriends, why are you any different??
- maybe her friends won’t like you
- maybe your friends won’t like her
- maybe your family won’t like her
- maybe her family won’t like you


AND ON AND ON AND ON – we could come up with dozens of logical reasons (and there are probably dozens more non logical/emotional ones)

So – if my theory is right, it’s the SOI that is destroying my chances of getting all these amazing girls out on day 2’s

What’s the counter to it?

Stop giving SOI’s, unless you can sleep with the girl on the night.

Pretty simple huh?

Not I’m not saying we should stop getting girls in bed on the same night. Far from it – I love direct, I love Shock and Awe and have had some amazing results (makeouts on the street and on the tube!) and am planning on using it more and more in the field. Whoever, what I’m saying is, in certain situations, where you don’t think you can seal the deal on the night, it is better not to give a SOI in order to drastically increase your chances of a day 2. Say she’s with her friends for a birthday for example. Do you really think she's going to ditch them to fuck you? Well, if you're game is uber tight, it's possible. Probably not, however. Or, it could be a logistical issue. Or Simply if you get the impression that she simply isn’t that type of girl. Many women aren’t. If that is the case, don't you want to maximize the chances you will see her again?

So, basically it goes likes this.

Meet girl. Open girl. Have fun. Connect. Build comfort. Get rapport. If there’s a natural attraction that’s great. Don’t make a big deal over her looks….don’t drool over her or tell her she’s fucking gorgeous. Don’t tell her you want her. Be a fun, sociable, amazing guy. *vibe vibe vibe*

How about:

“Hey, you’re an awesome girl. I have decided to add you to me social circle of whacky/original/amazing people. What’s your number – we’z got to chill!!” (time bridge to whatever)

Get the number.

No Major physical compliments. No smooching. No groping. No SEXUAL kino normal friendly kino is cool as that is part of rapport building and should happen naturally

She’s not going to flake. Sure in the back of her mind she’ll be thinking “I like this guy, I wonder if he likes me, maybe something will happen, etc”

But I suspect the fact that you haven’t given an SOI will in itself force her to meet up with you. You’re this awesome social guy, she’s this hot girl and you haven’t even hit on her. What the fuck? She has to see you again. She has to validate herself …. Plus she’ll want to see you because a guy who doesn’t hit on a girl as hot as her MUST be high value. IT will act like a dual magnet … sucking her into that day 2. She’ll be texting/chasing YOU.


I’ve only done this with a few of girls in the last couple of days and it seems to be working. I’ve just been my normal self, but without showing a sexual interest in the girl…. I’ve been SEXUAL, sure, but just not hit on the girl directly (or if I did, in a jokey way…) not complimented their looks….. just fun/funny/cool interesting guy who is getting to know this awesome girl. Here’s the kicker, a couple of girls in the last few days have number closed ME using this strategy. 2 of them had boyfriends… and they’re coming out to one of my gigs to check me out – and bringing their mates! …. What will happen from there I don’t know, but they are VERY hot girls with BF’s and they’ve gotten my # and then texted me!! Yipes!!

I’ll know in a week for sure but I have a funny feeling I’m onto something here.

Thoughts appreciated! Better yet, field testers appreciated. Go out there and don’t hit on girls!! (Yep, it’s pretty nutty, reading that sentence back .... on a seduction blog! I know!!)

Sasha