I just read "the rules" ...

In the last couple of days I’ve gained access to an array of other books – I’m staying at my mate’s house in Copenhagen. So I’ve started reading “think and grow rich” and “The rules” … (that’s right, the female version of “the game!”


A lot of the stuff they are telling girls to do is virtually the same as we’re taught to do in the community.
Some similiarities:

“Be a creature like no other” – be different, fun, mysterious

“don’t talk too much”

Always end dates/phone conversations first

Don’t open up too fast/early on

The Next! Policy (we’ve got that covered!)

Don’t be needy or pressure the othe person (in their case, for marriage)

Have a life – be busy


Some of the stuff they teach is different or simply not relevant to most male pua’s.
Such as:

“stop dating him if he doesn’t give you a romantic gift for your birthday or valentine’s day”

This makes sense. If I was crazy about a girl, I’d get her something sappy on her birthday, for sure.

“don’t accept a Saturday night date after wed” yep – makes good sense too though not really relevant for pua’s.

On the other hand, some of the stuff is ABSOLUTELY RETARDED.


Take for example rule number two “Don’t talk to a man first”

I’m going to copy into here a quote from this chapter for you guys. Here goes.

P 28, paragraph 3.

“by talking to a man first, we interfere with whatever was supposed to happen or not happen, perhaps causing a conversation or a date to occur that was never meant to be and inevitably getting hurt in the process. Eventually, he’ll talk to the girl he really wants and drop you. Yes, we manage to rationalize that behavior by telling youselves “He’s shy” or “I’m just being friendly.” Are men really shy? We might as well tackle this question right now. Perhaps a therapist would say so, but we believe that most men are not shy, just not really, really interested if they don’t approach you. It’s hard to accept that, we know. It’s also hard waiting for the right one – the one who talks to you first, calls, and basically does most of the work in the beginning of the relationship because he must have you. “

WOW!!

What flawed, negative logic. This paragraph puts women back about 50 years.

I guess these girls have never heard of approach anxiety! Can they really be so naïve? I suspect they are not: More likely they are twisting things to their version of reality. I’m sure it makes it a lot easier for “rules” girls to believe that a man that doesn’t approach her doesn’t really want her. But it simply isn’t true!


I’d like to explain to the authors of this book that in fact, just the opposite is true! Often, the girl a guy really wants to talk to are the most difficult to approach! When a man sees a woman that really blows her away, he heart skips a beat – he’s not just intimidated – he’s often terrified to approach her! What is she rejects him? Laughs at him? Tells him to fuck off? Of course most girls are quite polite and these terrible scenario’s rarely occur. But that’s what’s running through our heads when we see a woman that we are really attracted to!

Claudia schiffer is standing on a corner.
A man looks at her, and pauses for a moment.
He shrugs his shoulders and walks off in the other direction.
I guess he just didn’t like her enough, right?

Riiiiight…



Here’s the sinister part:
They actually encourage you to hide what you’re really like, hide any bad qualities or baggage, keep your mouth shut, and play hard to get and wait till the guy is in love with you before you show him your true self. WHAT?? What kind of a guy is going to fall for you don’t open up and are purposefully boring and aloof?


Simply put, if game is tricking girls into bed, then the “rules” is tricking guys into marriage. Which is, in my opinion, FAR worse. Like, infinitely worse. Even if you sleep with a guy, he turns out to be a dick – you’re not scarred for life. With a bit of luck you had a good night and you’ll move on. Unless you let some guy shag you without a condom, he gives you herpes and then you are scarred for life. Even still, I’d have to say that’s not as bad as waking up next to some woman you don’t really know that manipulated you into marriage.


However, as we know, game isn’t about tricking girls into bed. Not real game. Maybe for some guys out there, but I don’t think for the majority. But in this book, it really, really is about fooling a guy into marrying you. They are totally open about it! They have only one goal! Marriage!!

I find this not just off putting, but actually kind of creepy. Well no, I find it really creepy.

Oh wait – holy shit. I think I just got why girls find guys who just wanna get in their pants creepy. Ooooooooooh wow. Fuck. Yep. That is, actually, pretty creepy too.

Eek.